How to Live Stress Free!

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1. Laugh a lot. If there's nothing to laugh at, laugh at your reflection.
2. Look at a picture of a baby at the first sign of stress. How can you stay stressed looking at a cute baby?
3. Pretend your a reality star and that your problems will make great ratings and give you big pay checks.
4. Treat negative comments like you do a fart or any other noise that comes out of an @$$h0le
5. Watch Yoga DVDs but if you're old and inflexible like me, don't actually do them. Just watching those Zen people will make you zen.
6. Let your gut hang loose, stop sucking it in.
7. When people try to bring you down with drama, tell them that they look really silly in that polka dot bikini, especially if they're not wearing one.
8. Drink chocolate milk, unless you're lactose intolerant then just dump the chocolate syrup over your mouth and squeeze away.
9. Watch shows like "Bad Girls Club", "Jersey Shore" and "Bridezillas" Two mins of those shows and you'll realize your problems aren't that bad.
10. Make a mud pie in your backyard. Don't have one? Find somebody else's and make them one as a thank you for using their backyard.
11. Sing. Loudly and off key is especially important
12. Get a free hug from strangers on 14th Street (S/O to @Rawmultimedia for the inspiration for that one lol)
13. Get yourself a bouncy house and go crazy for like 12 hours straight.
14. Make up your own language and pretend its all you can speak for a day
15. And finally, create stupid lists like this one and share them with the world! :-)

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Black is BEAUTIFUL! Now Let's See Some More of it!

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This is an issue that is very much talked about amongst the black community; the lack of "black" faces in mainstream media. I'm just going to shed my feelings on the subject with this post:

Now, I read a lot of magazines and watch a lot of entertainment media and being a person who is interested in fashion and beauty, I like to see what these media outlets have to say on the subjects. But the problem is that there isn't much representation from the darker skinned population. It has always bothered me to some degree that in mainstream media, the only black females you see are lighter skinned or mixed raced like Beyonce and Halle Berry. Being a slightly darker skinned woman, its frustrating not to have that image to look to and aspire to.

I mean, there are a few places that try...like for example, right now on my bed is the July issue of People Style Watch magazine with Gabrielle Union on the cover. Seeing her, a fellow darker skinned and very beautiful woman, on the cover of a (dare I say) predominately Anglo based magazine makes me happy. But why can't we have MORE of that? Do we have to always go to the same few magazines that celebrate and showcase black faces? (i.e. Ebony, Essense...) I don't think we should have to. I think there should be a little representation of EVERYBODY in mainstream media. And don't even get me started on television! Thinking of all the television shows that I like (I won't name them right now....), there is very little diversity in the casts. I'm not racist and I don't watch television counting the black people but its just something I noticed and feel should be changed a bit.

Like I said, there really have been legitimate attempts and I'm not trying to harshly criticize any one institution or whatever. This is my feelings and my opinions that I felt should be shared. If you agree or disagree, let me know! Speak your mind in the comments below!

And as always, Thanks for Reading!

Psst! Hey Shawty! and all my other "Names"

One of the most annoying things for me and I'm sure any other beautiful woman (Oh, how conceited of me!) is cat calls or being picked up by strange men in the street. I don't know about other women but for me its always a guy that just seems like a real bum! The guys who think wife beaters and saggy jeans with their boxers showing are some kind of uniform; unkepmt guys with shaggy beady bead beards (think Pam from "Martin") and bad breath; males who are in men bodies but act like little boys...Yea, these are the kind of guys I always seem to get. And then they do the worst things to get your attention. They will call out for you from across the street. They will slow their beat up cars down and try to get you to hop in. And a lot of them just say really rude and objectifying things to you like "Damn, Baby! You look like a steak meal with a side of potatoes and corn on the cob!"

Some guys are really shameless, I swear! And what makes me mad is that some of us women accept craziness like that and these guys end up with girlfriends (or jumpoffs depending on the situation). Me personally, I have never and will never date a guy like that trying to "holla" at me on the street. But I have done some funny things to try to avoid them like giving a fake name, giving old numbers that have been disconnected, pretending to be hard of hearing, wearing fake engagement rings and wedding bands, and my favorite; pretending to be a lesbian!

Obviously there are better ways to try to pick up women; not every guy uses these bummy moves. There are the few guys out there that will just simply try to strike up a conversation or tell you that you look beautiful, which is a whole lot better than "Yo Shawty" or "Hey You in the *insert color here*!" I never knew I went by so many names!

If you agree or have a funny story about a guy (or girl) trying to pick you up, leave it in the comment section below and as always, Thanks for Reading!

P.S.: This post is not meant to be mean or hurt anyones feelings, just being funny! Don't worry if you're a girl that's fallen for the "Hey Shawty" technique, I'm sure you're not the only one ;-)

I Support LOVE!

The news has been buzzing lately with talks that legalizing gay marriage just might be coming to the great state of New York and I couldn't be happier to hear this news!

I'm not gay myself but like the title of this posts says: I support love and I support gay marriage because denying someone the right to express their love in the way that they want to is just wrong. You can ask any of my close friends and family; I've always been very passionate about the rights of the LGBT community and whenever I hear about the mistreatment, prejudice, and injustice they face, I am so disgusted.

Why is it so wrong for LGBT to just be themselves? Are they hurting anybody? No! Everyone in this world should be able to love who they want to without fear if being outcast by others.

I'm not knocking anybody who doesn't believe in gay marriage. Whatever, that's your prerogative and I wouldn't tell anyone what to believe or how to feel. But as soon as you express that in a hateful way, that's when you need to be shut down! The bullying NEEDS TO STOP, the bashing NEEDS TO STOP, the slurs and hurtful words NEED TO STOP!!! Come on people, we're living in the new millenium for God's sake! And speaking of God, MY God wants us to love and respect everyone as we would want to be loved and respected because that's how much he loves us. I don't know what YOUR God tells you to do but eh...

Anyway, on a lighter and funnier note, I used to be sooo in love with Lance Bass from NSYNC. I mean I used to dream about marrying him and having some really pretty half black kids with blonde hair lol (this was of course before he came out as a gay man...well before-ish). When he came out I was so proud and happy for him and I knew that he was going to be a positive role model and influence the lives of so many. If I had to pick my favorite gay person he would be it lol.
Don't know why I told that story! I guess it's slightly related. It'll be more related if Lance gets married in NY!! (*Crossing my fingers*)

How do you feel about gay marriage coming to NY? Leave your comment below and Thanks for reading!

Jealousy: Lemme Break it Down for Ya!

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Jealousy is way up there on the list of things that can ruin a relationship. Over the years, I've come to my own theories about what I think are the three types or levels of jealousy.
***Disclaimer: I am not a psychologist or relationship expert. I only have my opinions and whether you agree or not is up to you.

The first type of jealousy is the healthiest one. When you're in a loving relationship, there should be some degree of jealousy in which you're possessive (but not excessively) over your partner. I'm gonna use a hypothetical situation to explain my point better.

You and your boyfriend (or girlfriend) are sitting in a restaurant when the waitress (or waiter) stops by to take your order. The waitress is really good looking and you see your boyfriend and her exchanging (what you think are) inappropriate looks. He's checking her out and she's checking him out and you're watching the whole thing. Now a "healthy jealous" attitude would be to just put your arm around your man and flash the girl a fierce but friendly look that says "He's all mine, sorry!" And then move it along. That's a reasonable reaction to a situation where one might be jealous. It shows that you are confident that although your partner is noticing someone else and vice versa, there's no need to flip because YOU GOT THIS!!!

Take that same situation. You're sitting at the table, the waitress comes, blah blah. Now in the next level of jealousy, you would immediately get upset. All these negative thoughts would run through your head for a while and it'll just bring you down. This level of jealous stems from insecurity. But what makes this type of jealousy not as bad as the next one I'm gonna mention, is that you don't act on those thoughts…at least not in a crazy way. The most you would do with this type of jealousy is be in a bad mood and psych yourself out into being upset and passive aggressive while your partner is wondering what he/she did wrong. But the upside to this level of jealousy is that sometimes you can be secure enough to talk yourself out of this feeling. You can think of the fact that your boyfriend is there with YOU on that date and no one else. Yes, he might notice other women but he still choses to be with you.

Now for the final level of jealousy; the type that is fear inducing; the crazy jealousy. Same situation: You, your boyfriend, the waitress at the table, looks are exchanged, etc. The crazy jealous girlfriend would immediately go into bitch mode; flip out and accuse both the boyfriend and the waitress of messing around behind her back. She would fight the waitress and key up her boyfriend's car. This is the extreme level of jealousy. It comes from insecurity, irrationality, and bad relationships period. If you're a man or a woman and you feel the need to react to simple situations in a drastic way like this then perhaps you should check yourself out. I mean there are many factors that would cause a person to react that way. And sometimes it’s the other person in the relationship that can drive a person crazy like that… #ImJustSayin!

Hope you enjoyed this post! Feel free to give feedback, even if you disagree and Thanks for Reading!!!

The L Word (And no I don't mean the TV show)

I was having a conversation with someone a couple weeks ago about Love. How do you know when you're in it?  And after you finally figure out that you're in love, how do you know when you're ready to settle down?  How do you know of your significant other is "the one"?

I think these are most baffling of questions in life. These questions are the reasons we as people go crazy in relationships!  The jealousy, cheating, lying, conniving, trickery, passive aggression...those things can all be attributed to the fact that we don't know where were going and who were going there with.  I think even the seemingly happiest couples are probably just as unsure as someone who's struggling to find love.

I guess the point of love and life is that you'll never know what you're destined for or who you're destined to be with. There are people who find the loves of their lives at the ends of their lives and people who don't believe in soul mates but instead believe in loving the one you're with. But in the end, I think we can all agree that despite the hardships, difficulties and searching, being in love or even thinking you're in love makes it all worth it and if you don't quite agree with that, maybe you haven't had that kind of love yet.

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Been away for a while...This is why!

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Apart of me feels badly that I haven't blogged on a while bit the other part of me that doesn't feel so bad is just excited about my new expansion pack for The Sims. I'm obessed! First of all, I've been a Sims fan since it came out when I was like, in middle school or something. This newest expansion pack, Generations is bringing even more real life elements into the game like never before. Teenagers can throw parties while their folks are away, there's prom and graduations. Last night, my Sim had a bachelor party! Kid sims can play pretend and have imaginary friends...ISN'T THIS ALL SO EXCITING!!!!

So, in a nut shell this is why I haven't been blogging so much. This past week I've spent the majority of my free time playing God on the computer. (No disrespect to the REAL God of course!)

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What's a quarter-life-crisis anyway????

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Maybe some people will stumble across my blog and wonder why I chose this title.  Others could really care less but I'm gonna explain anyway! 
For anybody that's a John Mayer fan, you first heard this phrase in his song "Why Georgia" on his Room for Squares album and that is where I got it from.  Just so there's no copyright infringement or any mumbo jumbo like that. (Did I just say mumbo jumbo? My nerd is showing...)
For anyone that still doesn't quite get what it means; to pit it simply, it's basically a mid-life crisis but in half the time!

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