Psst! Hey Shawty! and all my other "Names"

One of the most annoying things for me and I'm sure any other beautiful woman (Oh, how conceited of me!) is cat calls or being picked up by strange men in the street. I don't know about other women but for me its always a guy that just seems like a real bum! The guys who think wife beaters and saggy jeans with their boxers showing are some kind of uniform; unkepmt guys with shaggy beady bead beards (think Pam from "Martin") and bad breath; males who are in men bodies but act like little boys...Yea, these are the kind of guys I always seem to get. And then they do the worst things to get your attention. They will call out for you from across the street. They will slow their beat up cars down and try to get you to hop in. And a lot of them just say really rude and objectifying things to you like "Damn, Baby! You look like a steak meal with a side of potatoes and corn on the cob!"

Some guys are really shameless, I swear! And what makes me mad is that some of us women accept craziness like that and these guys end up with girlfriends (or jumpoffs depending on the situation). Me personally, I have never and will never date a guy like that trying to "holla" at me on the street. But I have done some funny things to try to avoid them like giving a fake name, giving old numbers that have been disconnected, pretending to be hard of hearing, wearing fake engagement rings and wedding bands, and my favorite; pretending to be a lesbian!

Obviously there are better ways to try to pick up women; not every guy uses these bummy moves. There are the few guys out there that will just simply try to strike up a conversation or tell you that you look beautiful, which is a whole lot better than "Yo Shawty" or "Hey You in the *insert color here*!" I never knew I went by so many names!

If you agree or have a funny story about a guy (or girl) trying to pick you up, leave it in the comment section below and as always, Thanks for Reading!

P.S.: This post is not meant to be mean or hurt anyones feelings, just being funny! Don't worry if you're a girl that's fallen for the "Hey Shawty" technique, I'm sure you're not the only one ;-)

Jealousy: Lemme Break it Down for Ya!

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Jealousy is way up there on the list of things that can ruin a relationship. Over the years, I've come to my own theories about what I think are the three types or levels of jealousy.
***Disclaimer: I am not a psychologist or relationship expert. I only have my opinions and whether you agree or not is up to you.

The first type of jealousy is the healthiest one. When you're in a loving relationship, there should be some degree of jealousy in which you're possessive (but not excessively) over your partner. I'm gonna use a hypothetical situation to explain my point better.

You and your boyfriend (or girlfriend) are sitting in a restaurant when the waitress (or waiter) stops by to take your order. The waitress is really good looking and you see your boyfriend and her exchanging (what you think are) inappropriate looks. He's checking her out and she's checking him out and you're watching the whole thing. Now a "healthy jealous" attitude would be to just put your arm around your man and flash the girl a fierce but friendly look that says "He's all mine, sorry!" And then move it along. That's a reasonable reaction to a situation where one might be jealous. It shows that you are confident that although your partner is noticing someone else and vice versa, there's no need to flip because YOU GOT THIS!!!

Take that same situation. You're sitting at the table, the waitress comes, blah blah. Now in the next level of jealousy, you would immediately get upset. All these negative thoughts would run through your head for a while and it'll just bring you down. This level of jealous stems from insecurity. But what makes this type of jealousy not as bad as the next one I'm gonna mention, is that you don't act on those thoughts…at least not in a crazy way. The most you would do with this type of jealousy is be in a bad mood and psych yourself out into being upset and passive aggressive while your partner is wondering what he/she did wrong. But the upside to this level of jealousy is that sometimes you can be secure enough to talk yourself out of this feeling. You can think of the fact that your boyfriend is there with YOU on that date and no one else. Yes, he might notice other women but he still choses to be with you.

Now for the final level of jealousy; the type that is fear inducing; the crazy jealousy. Same situation: You, your boyfriend, the waitress at the table, looks are exchanged, etc. The crazy jealous girlfriend would immediately go into bitch mode; flip out and accuse both the boyfriend and the waitress of messing around behind her back. She would fight the waitress and key up her boyfriend's car. This is the extreme level of jealousy. It comes from insecurity, irrationality, and bad relationships period. If you're a man or a woman and you feel the need to react to simple situations in a drastic way like this then perhaps you should check yourself out. I mean there are many factors that would cause a person to react that way. And sometimes it’s the other person in the relationship that can drive a person crazy like that… #ImJustSayin!

Hope you enjoyed this post! Feel free to give feedback, even if you disagree and Thanks for Reading!!!

Who Run the World? Well apparently, Girls do!

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Funny story: So last night, I turned on my tv to channel 7 looking for Desperate Housewives (which ended last week, no one gave me the memo!) but ended up catching the very beginning of Beyonce performing "Run The World" on the Billboard Awards which I had NO IDEA was on in the first place. (I don't keep up with awards shows anymore, not since high school.) So I ended up watching and I have to give B her props. The performance was SICK!!! I was so impressed! I couldn't even take my eyes off of it for one second.

I wasn't a big fan of the song itself when it came out but I do love the concept of enstilling this sense of empowerment in women/girls. I think that we could all use some more of that in this world, whether we are confident and cocky or struggling with self esteem. I admit that in my life I've struggled with self-esteem especially as a teenager. I think if Beyonce was singing this song back then, it might have helped even just a little bit.

Great job to B and other female artists (like my favorite, Christina Aguilera) who are always singing/speaking about the power of women!

Thanks for reading!

"Love me or Leave me, Just take it or Leave it...."

Me, Fresh faced and Make-up free

Ladies this one is for you...
I am guilty of having this thought---> 'He (whomever he may be) cannot see me without my make-up on or my hair 'did'!" and I'm also guilty of saying this---> "No, you can't come over now, I need at least an hour to get ready" I think we've all had these thoughts when it comes to our romantic relationships. Today I kind of realized just how silly it all is. I know someone who emailed a person she's newly dating a picture of herself without makeup so that he could, quote, "know what he was getting himself into." But now she's worried because she hasn't heard back from him yet and she fears she may have scared him off.

Now here's my problem with that scenario; why does he need a preview? Why even give him a reason to reject you or walk away? Why put him through a "test"? It will happen eventually; that guy you're seeing now WILL eventually see you not looking your best. I say, just let fate take over and wait for the actual moment to happen before you force it. And besides, why do we women do these things when Men will fart, burp, spit in front of us, hang their guts freely over their bellies and scratch their crotches without batting an eye?

Just something to think about. Thanks for reading!



***Title consists of lyrics from "I Am" by Christina Aguilera: Bionic album